Jess Cagle, the departing editor of People magazine, which featured Mr. Cohen and Benjamin on the cover last month, said that Mr. Cohen’s public persona as a sassy partyer could be fueling the back talk.
“This is a single gay dad, who has cultivated this reputation as a swinging bachelor, suddenly, to the world’s eyes, becoming a father,” said Mr. Cagle, who is a longtime friend of Mr. Cohen’s.
While the response to the article was positive, Mr. Cagle said that some readers were not aware of Mr. Cohen’s professional and serious side. “They’re like, ‘Oh my gosh, you are the guy who goes out every night. How could you possibly be a parent?’ It doesn’t necessarily all come from a bad place. They just think he needs advice.”
Some gay fathers say they often get unsolicited advice from strangers, based on the outdated misconception that only mothers know best.
“As gay parents, my husband and I have been in numerous situations where we are not only corrected — but also compared to a higher ‘mom’ standard,” Ariel Foxman, the former editor of InStyle magazine, wrote in an essay for O: The Oprah Magazine called “Dear Internet, Please Stop Dad-Shaming Andy Cohen.” He recalled one incident when a “momsplainer” smiled at him and yelled, “That boy needs his gloves.”
“When there’s not a female presence involved, it happens a lot,” said Eric Rosswood, the author of “The Ultimate Guide for Gay Dads,” a how-to book for L.G.B.T. parents. Mr. Rosswood, who lives in Westchester County, N.Y., said a stranger in an elevator once corrected the way he was burping his son, and a receptionist once told him that his newborn daughter could suffocate in a baby carrier.